This is a deeply personal episode and one that I've been putting off talking about on the podcast for a while. Sharing this story on the blog back in 2018 was very therapeutic in my own healing journey but talking about it out loud with the world was a whole other ball game.
However, I decided we should share our experience on the podcast because I feel that it is my duty to talk about something that people don't like to talk about. And because I know there's someone like you out there who's been through it too or you're in the process of going through it and I believe my story might give you comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
You are not alone. We've been there and millions of women (and men) have been there too.
If you've never been there, I get it, it really doesn't seem like a big deal, but trust me - it is, especially when you're in the thick of it. Like any tough experience, time heals all things - as cliche as that sounds. Whether it's the death of a loved one, a miscarriage, a divorce -- all tough situations if given the time to heal, will heal. At least that's been my experience because I've been through all of those things.
In this episode we discuss:
- Why we wanted to share our miscarriage story
- "Missed" miscarriages and what they are
- How Vienna knew we were pregnant before we did
- Walker's reaction to the news that we were pregnant again
- Navigating the loneliness and isolation that comes with miscarriage
- Mourning your former life
- Who we turned to for support
- Why your emotional state doesn't have to relate to how long you've been pregnant
- Recalling the sequence of events on the day of the miscarriage
- Don't be afraid to "feel the feels"
- What helped us to heal and move forward
- Why you shouldn't ask people when they are having a child or when they are having their next child
Hi Joy and Walker, I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story. I especially wanted to thank you for your final comment on how people should avoid asking why you don’t have kids? As one who doesn’t have kids nor has been pregnant, I literally shrivel up inside every time someone asks. People don’t ever think that it may not be by choice that you don’t. Anyway thanks for helping people be more aware and I appreciate everything you guys are doing!
ReplyThanks for your comment Ofelia. It's just no one's business! Thank you for listening to this latest episode :)
Thanks for sharing your story I also had a miscarriage and it helps others know that it is common and never our fault
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